Morning, friends! As you know, we’ve had some struggles in our house lately. Not gonna lie, Nick and I can be pretty stubborn and I think we both got to the point where we needed help. Rather than just constantly researching, we needed to hear it from peers who have experienced this first hand. So we got in contact with some incredibly knowledgeable people from Seeds for Autism and SARRC (Southwest Autism Research and Resource Center) and spent close to an hour on the phone with each place just talking about what we are going through and having someone on the other end who has experienced it as well.
We’ve learned, and came to the realization that we needed more structure in our home. Now don’t get me wrong, it is not by any means a free for all in the Wilson household. We have rules just like other families, and I don’t know if it was because of summer, but some of those rules and structure seemed to be fading away. So, after our talk with both resource centers, that night we sat down as a family and had a meeting. We went over rules and decided we would implement a chore chart. Now, I’ve never been a big fan of said “chart”, mostly because you do them for a week, or two at the most, and then they slowly go by the wayside. (At least this is what happened when we tried a few years ago) But, we thought we’d give it another go. So here is what we came up with.
First, our age appropriate list of chores.
-Make Bed/Clean Room
-Give the Dog Food and Water
-Take out Trash
-Shower (Yes, this is on here because, 1.) Boys and 2.) Noah has a sensory issue with water and taking a shower is literally a chore)
Second, our reward system.
-100 Stars-$5 treat (Fro Yo, Chik fil A, ice cream, etc..)
-300 Stars-$20 treat (Going to the movies, itunes gift card, a day at KTR, etc)
-600 Stars-$60 treat (Video game, toys, Lego set, etc ..)
Honestly, we didn’t want their rewards to be easily attainable. Not gonna lie, the boys have gotten complacent and somewhat used to things getting handed to them, so now it’s time for a change. We want them to learn what it’s like to earn their things and hopefully, at some point, they will learn to appreciate them more.
Last week we got accustomed to the new rules and structure of the household and now we are implementing the chores. This also includes a 30 minute mandatory reading time when they get home from dad’s work! I have seen both boys really enjoying this new system we have going on at home. They’ve been doing the chores willingly and our evenings have been SO MUCH BETTER! I’m a “glass half full” girl, so I am confident that they can keep this up! Well, they better if they want to earn those treats! 😉
I’d love to hear what kind of chores you implement in your household! As I may be missing some good ones!